When A Soulmate Doesn’t Mean A Life-Mate
Most of us have been there at one point or another. We meet a person and it feels that we’ve known them for a lifetime. We look into their eyes and it feels like we can dive into the core of their being. Our heart races. Our legs shake. It starts like a fairy-tale, but it doesn’t always end like one.
A soulmate connection is, actually, pretty frequent, and it doesn’t always mean “happily ever after” or “meant to be”. It is then that what started like a dream turns easily into confusion, sleepless nights and countless hours of conversations that go over and over again about the same topic: The person that has shaken your life.
Dealing with a soulmate connection can be rough, because the other person is also connected to you, they feel the pull, they just don’t want to act over it sometimes, and this is when the emotional pain begins and when we start to feel drained, hopeless and unable to get them out of our head.
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The link is really strong, and it is natural to want to try anything and everything to make this work, but it can swiftly become a matter that is just taking too much of our energy, too much of our effort, for no results. Here starts the wondering: “What if I just give up too soon?” “Perhaps, if I wait long enough they will realize…” At this point we are just so invested in the relationship and we have put so much of ourselves into it that we feel unable to take a step back. They are our soulmate. Right? And giving up feels like delegitimizing our feelings.
Take a deep breath. I feel you! Your feelings are legit, your connection is real, but the truth about soulmates is that they don’t always come to stay, and it’s nothing that you did or didn’t do. There are connections made above that will enter into your life, but it is important to remember that you are the master, that you have come here to live the human experience, to sublimate your soul. However, none of this means that you are not free. You are free. And so is the other part involved.
It is hard to separate the Soul from the Ego, but ultimately, it is the latter who makes the decisions in this plane of existence, and you keep every right to make yours, regardless of the contracts that your soul acquired before you even came here.
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Sibyl’s Verdict
So, if you are feeling drained and hopeless, know that you have permission to continue on with your life. There will be more love, love beyond your wildest dreams. Don’t be scared of missing out. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that if it is not them, nobody else will fill the blank. Set yourself free and make the greatest act of love and compassion towards your own soul – though it feels like the hardest – and let go of what hurts you, so you can make
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Thank you. The timing of this is so perfect. We’ve been apart over a year and I was feeling like the connection we share would never allow ME to move on…
Now I know I can.
What a wonderful thing, Nanette! The process might not be easy or painless, but it will pass and as you move past it, you will discover plenty of opportunities awaiting for you 🙂
You must know exactly why I’ve been going through think you for giving me permission to let go. I feared that there was nothing better, but you confirmed there is something, or someone much better a LIFE MATE
I’m glad that you feel better now, Treiva. I do know how this feels, but that has allowed me to also know that there is a way out, and that there are amazing things waiting for us to let them happen! I wish you the best of lucks with the search of your Life-Mate!
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I haven’t met this guy I met online. I made a mistake contacting his family when he was in jail. After that we are always arguing and he said that seen we haven’t met that we should forget about each other. Will we ever have contact again